Four views of life
Fear/Anxiety
We feel powerless and out of control. We don’t like what is happening and yet are unable to change it. We are reactive, blame others, fight or seek escape. Life is painful.
Duty/Conformity
We have control over our lives by conforming to what others expect. We are “good” and “honorable” people. We build security, submit to the rules and avoid problems with others. Life is safe.
Achievement/Identity
We seek importance and meaning through achievements. We project a competent and “together” image to others. We are productive, goal-oriented, competitive and perfectionistic. Life is good when we perform well.
Love/Trust
We are alive and happy. We have a vision of what we want and recognize numerous choices about how to respond to the events and circumstances of life. We believe in ourselves and care about others. Life is great.
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Concepts taught in this audio series
The Love/Trust Model: a road map of human healthiness. You will understand that your behavior is a function of the state you are in and that you can choose and create a Love/Trust state that is freeing and empowering.
Key Moments: These are moments of upset when things are not working. Learn how you become trapped in self-defeating attitudes and behaviors. More importantly, learn to change your typical responses.
Accountability: Your willingness to claim ownership of the results you’re getting in life. It’s easy to make excuses or put the blame elsewhere. Yet doing so leaves you powerless and out of control of your life. Taking ownership means discovering freedom.
Vision: Being clear about what you want. As you clarify what you really want in life you’ll bring your behavior into alignment with that. You can learn to be proactive and make what you want happen rather than waiting for it to happen.
Commitment: The state of mind in which you’re willing to do whatever is necessary to produce a result. It has to do with translating your vision into reality. I do what I say I’ll do (integrity).
Reality: The way things are; what is, whether you recognize it or not. Deny or fight it and it persists. Recognize and accept it and you have new choices about it.
Subjective Reality: Your beliefs, judgments, wishes, hopes, etc. It either empowers or imprisons you. It’s possible to challenge and change negative, self-defeating beliefs.
Personal Responsibility: Your willingness to recognize choices available at any given moment. The quality of your life depends not on circumstances and events but the choices you make regarding these. People who are successful and happy make choices that are strengthening.
Abundance/Scarcity: Two contexts from which to view life. Most people see what is missing. People who are happy experience life from what is available.
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